Sanitation is where off-grid plans meet the health department. A conventional septic system is the default the county understands and the most expensive thing after the well. Composting toilets, outhouses, and greywater systems can cut that cost dramatically, and in some places they are fully legal, in others tolerated, in others not. The laws pages say which.
Plan blackwater and greywater separately; it is the single biggest lever on cost. And plan the maintenance, because every one of these systems has a routine (emptying, coir, fan fuses, pumping the tank) that does not care how tired you are.

